Christian Sex-Ed

Let me first start by saying that I have desperately been avoiding this issue.  However, it seems to keep popping up everywhere, including my own home.  My six year old wants to know where babies come from and how any human being could have eight!  I thought I had taken care of this conversation for at least another couple of years, but with OctoMom being covered on every news outlet there is no escape.  So, begins my journey.  How do I teach with all clarity and accuracy about sex?  What is age appropriate?  How much is too much?  Should boys and girls be handled differently?

Sometimes as parents we make the mistake of putting off questions. When we do we might think that we’ve “successfully avoided” the issue. Instead, we are teaching our children that you are not a good sources of information. They will go elsewhere.   Instead, we should “take advantage of the opportunities our children give us to provide correct answers.

Our goals as Christian parents should be, first, to model healthy, biblical sexuality (in our actions and attitudes), second, to educate about healthy, biblical sexuality (the physical, spiritual, and emotional dimensions), and finally, to help our children to internalize healthy and biblical attitudes and boundaries with their own sexuality.

I plan to read the following  selections and share the information and insight with you.   Please share any experiences that you have had in this area.

060137: God"s Design for Sex Series, Book 1: The Story of Me, Revised God’s Design for Sex Series, Book 1: The Story of Me, Revised

By Stan Jones & Brenna Jones / NAV Press

732170: Questions Kids Ask about Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age Questions Kids Ask about Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age

By J. Thomas Fitch, M.D., with Melissa R. Cox / Revell

205480: Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality--Parent/Child Kit Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality–Parent/Child Kit

By Jim Burns / Bethany House

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LATOIA BROWN wrote 202 articles on this blog.

Wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and most importantly a child of the King! I'm fearfully and wonderfully made and continually being transformed into God's divine image for my life.

  • lea jones

    you shouldn’t sacre the chrildren into net having sex and avoiding the issue all together is just asking them to go out and have sex and even catch a disease. the kids need to know what they are getting themselvs into. i’m not trying to judge or get nasty but if we shelter them to much, what are we doing? the child will get cerious and wounder off. they might even get scared of telling you they are having sex and catch somthing or get pregnant but they are to scared to tell you. don’t be afraid to tell them the pros and the cons of sex.

  • lea jones

    you shouldn’t sacre the chrildren into net having sex and avoiding the issue all together is just asking them to go out and have sex and even catch a disease. the kids need to know what they are getting themselvs into. i’m not trying to judge or get nasty but if we shelter them to much, what are we doing? the child will get cerious and wounder off. they might even get scared of telling you they are having sex and catch somthing or get pregnant but they are to scared to tell you. don’t be afraid to tell them the pros and the cons of sex.

  • http://www.sistersofthefaith.com/ Sister Transformed

    Lea, thanks for your comment. The intention is to begin a dialogue with children early on rather than avoiding the issue. Our children are exposed to far more today than those of previous generations. As a result, the temptations that they are faced with are occurring at an earlier age, especially in the area of purity and abstinence. God has provided an answer and an example to fighting these temptations that can be clearly found in His Word. We should not allow the media, school systems, or friends to cultivate unhealthy and ideas about sex in our children’s minds. The intention is to answer their questions and establish what sex is and isn’t. Since sex and sexuality were born out of the mind and heart of God, He also has the best idea about how we can most fully enjoy it. Their curiosity is innate, but, they don’t have to wander off. Opening up a dialogue now will lay the ground work for open communication with our children when these issues arise. Our process of educating them should consists of sharing both the carnal and spiritual consequences of sex outside of marriage. There are worse things that can happen besides an unplanned pregnancy or an STD. God didn’t make sex as a mere physical act.

  • LATOIA BROWN

    Lea, thanks for your comment. The intention is to begin a dialogue with children early on rather than avoiding the issue. Our children are exposed to far more today than those of previous generations. As a result, the temptations that they are faced with are occurring at an earlier age, especially in the area of purity and abstinence. God has provided an answer and an example to fighting these temptations that can be clearly found in His Word. We should not allow the media, school systems, or friends to cultivate unhealthy and ideas about sex in our children’s minds. The intention is to answer their questions and establish what sex is and isn’t. Since sex and sexuality were born out of the mind and heart of God, He also has the best idea about how we can most fully enjoy it. Their curiosity is innate, but, they don’t have to wander off. Opening up a dialogue now will lay the ground work for open communication with our children when these issues arise. Our process of educating them should consists of sharing both the carnal and spiritual consequences of sex outside of marriage. There are worse things that can happen besides an unplanned pregnancy or an STD. God didn’t make sex as a mere physical act.

  • Miaka Moto

    I agree with this one children should be taught a proper sex education to prevent several activities because of curiosity, i just remembered the day when y mom and dad explain what condom is for

  • http://www.sistersofthefaith.com/ Sister Transformed

    You were fortunate to have had anything explained to you. Far too many people are only being “educated” by peers alone and that information is usually flawed to say the least.